To the Moms Navigating Divorce: A Post-Mother’s Day Reflection
Mother’s Day can stir up a whirlwind of emotions, even in the most stable seasons of life. When you’re navigating divorce, the day often carries an added layer of complexity. Whether you spent it wrapped in the joy of your children, wrestling with conflicting feelings, or simply doing your best to hold things together quietly, I want you to know that you’re not alone.
Motherhood is a role that pulls from the deepest parts of who we are. It calls for everything you’ve got- mentally, emotionally, and physically. Being a mom while navigating the emotional and logistical demands of divorce? That takes incredible strength, resilience, and grace.
Divorce often stirs up guilt, grief, doubt, and pressure, especially around parenting. You may find yourself questioning if you’re doing enough, or replaying moments in your mind, wondering if you got it right. So here’s a gentle reminder from my heart to yours:
✨ Consistently showing up with intention and love—even when things feel messy—is powerful.
✨ It's not about perfection or saying and doing everything right—it’s about being a loving, steady anchor in the storm.
As a divorce coach, I work with moms facing this same emotional terrain. Here are a few simple grounding strategies I share:
1. Set emotional boundaries.
Protect your energy by limiting interactions or conversations that leave you feeling drained—especially with your ex. It’s okay to pause a difficult discussion or respond when you're in a calmer, more centered space.
2. Normalize your emotions.
Sadness, anger, guilt, even moments of relief—these are all normal. Let yourself feel without judgment. Emotions are not the enemy; they’re messengers. Pay attention to them with compassion.
3. Focus on what you can control.
Divorce can make life feel chaotic. But small, consistent actions—like maintaining routines or creating peaceful moments—offer your kids (and yourself) a sense of safety.
4. Let your values guide you.
When decisions feel overwhelming, come back to your core parenting values. They’ll help you stay anchored and confident, even in uncertainty.
Divorce doesn’t diminish your role as a mother—it redefines it. And within that shift is an opportunity to model compassion and courage to your children in powerful, lasting ways. You are doing brave, beautiful work. Keep going.
To your new horizon,
Janelle
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